Shorter Men Are Better in Bed: A Letter to All

There’s a myth that tall men have it all. Maybe it’s because they stand out in a crowd, cast a longer shadow, make it easier for someone to lean up and kiss them. I suppose people figure height means strength, or that being able to reach the top shelf counts for something in life. But what if I told you they were wrong? That somewhere in all this talk of inches and status, we’ve missed the point entirely?

I’ve been there myself. Spent the early years dating women who looked down at me—literally and figuratively. But what they found, what they really remembered, wasn’t how tall I stood next to them. It was the way I made them feel. And there’s something about being a shorter man that forces you to learn that sooner.

Let me tell you about James—he was 5’5”, a good head shorter than the woman he was seeing. She never thought she’d date a shorter guy. It felt strange to her at first. People even made comments—how could they not? She would refrain from wearing heals because she thought it would bother him. It was quite the reverse. It was a turn on, for him. We live in a world where height is currency. But she didn’t leave him because of the height. She left him because life pulled them in different directions, because sometimes things don’t work out. And you know what she realized? She missed the way he made her feel seen, appreciated. Height didn’t have a damn thing to do with it.

But let’s get down to brass tacks. Researchers at New York University studied this whole thing. They found that men who are 5’7” or shorter are 32% less likely to get divorced than their taller peers. Why? Maybe because short men know they’ve got to bring more to the table. They put in the work—around the house, in their careers, and yes, in their relationships. It turns out, shorter men are more likely to roll up their sleeves and take care of things. They’re not just talking a good game; they’re showing up, day in and day out.

And it’s not just about keeping a marriage intact. A study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that men under 175 cm (around 5’9”) have more sex than their taller counterparts. It’s not hard to figure out why. When you’ve been underestimated, you learn to over-deliver. You don’t take things for granted, least of all your partner’s needs.

Now, let’s talk about sex drive. There’s a raw, undeniable intensity that comes from being underestimated. It lights a fire that burns deep, pushing a man to prove his worth, to exceed expectations. Studies have hinted that shorter men tend to have higher testosterone levels, which could explain a more active libido. It’s not a coincidence that those with more to prove often have a greater appetite for connection and intimacy. It’s biology at play, but it’s also psychology—a drive to make every encounter count, to put in the effort that some taller men might take for granted.

Shorter men know they’ve got something to prove, and that extends to the bedroom. They bring that hunger, that need to satisfy, and it shows. This drive isn’t just about frequency; it’s about intensity. When you’ve spent your life fighting against expectations, you learn how to focus that energy, how to turn it into something that can’t be ignored. And when the world is busy measuring inches, a shorter man knows that he can make up for it with passion, with persistence, with that insatiable need to make the experience unforgettable.

Think about it. Men like Tom Holland (5’7”), Rami Malek (5’7”), Nick Jonas (5’6”)—they’re not relying on height to catch the spotlight. They’ve got presence, they’ve got charm, and they’ve got something deeper than just a few extra inches of leg. They know how to use what they’ve got.

And sure, it’s easy to say height shouldn’t matter, but that’s not how people work. We’re wired to judge, to sort things into neat little categories. Tall is strong, short is weak—that’s the story we tell ourselves. But reality is messier, and it’s more interesting. The man who doesn’t loom over you might be the one who’s right beside you when it counts. The one who listens, who laughs, who doesn’t let his height define him but instead defines himself through everything else.

So maybe next time, when you find yourself wondering if a guy who doesn’t make you crane your neck is worth the time, remember this: he just might curl your toes in bed. Because when it comes down to it, do you really picture a guy at 6’5” doing Kama Sutra moves? I don’t think so. What makes him good is how much he cares, how much he pays attention, and how much he’s willing to learn and give. And a shorter man? He’s spent his whole life doing just that—showing the world that he’s more than a number on a tape measure.

And James? He’s out there, still dating taller women, still making them feel like they’re the only ones in the room. And why wouldn’t he? He knows he’s more than enough. He’s more than a few inches of height. He’s got something most people never figure out—he’s got heart, and he knows how to use it. And that’s what makes all the difference.